How to help people…
Just go ahead and be what you were made to be, without…trying to be something you aren’t.
If you preach, just preach, nothing else; if you help, just help, don’t take over; if you teach, stick to your teaching; if you give encouraging guidance, be careful that you don’t get bossy; if you’re put in charge, don’t manipulate; if you’re called to give aid to people in distress, keep your eyes open and be quick to respond; if you work with the disadvantaged, don’t let yourself get irritated with them or depressed by them.
Keep a smile on your face. Love from the center of who you are; don’t fake it’
Second: learn to recognize the difference between what people want and what they truly need.
Sometimes they need to be strengthened; other times they need to be stretched.
Sometimes they need comfort, not correction; other times they need correction, not comfort.
So, in order to help people you must love them, recognize what they need, know what you have to offer, and connect with them at the point of their need.